Are you on a health and fitness rollercoaster all the time? If you feel crappy for eating something forbidden and can't stop putting yourself down for missed workout, you are.
I was too…
Do you ever
- Get upset if you miss a workout?
- Follow your diet to detail, and can't live with yourself if you “fall off” the wagon?
- Lose your mind if there's nothing to eat that fits to your current diet?
- Count every calorie?
- Get upset when you get hungry and there's no food available right now?
- Can't stop thinking about and blaming yourself for being weak and eating certain things you were not supposed to?
- Think that there's just one way to exercise (maybe just running, or just lifting, or whatever else you think is the only right thing to do), and nothing else counts?
- Cancel dates with your friends / other plans you had because you didn't workout yet, and because there's probably nothing to eat there?
- Think how you're wasting your calories when having a drink?
If any of this is true, then you're probably riding a health and fitness rollercoaster. You're always up (I was good all day today!) or down (I screwed it all!).
As much as I like rollercoasters in real life, I think in health and fitness, a flatter road is better option.
Addicted to Exercise
When I was on that rollercoaster, I used to think that there's just one way to workout – to run, and to do it every day. Because I did it the first thing in the morning, nothing could usually come up, so I never had to cancel it. But in the rare days when something did come up, I felt awful for skipping the run. There was this small nagging voice at the back of my mind all the time, reminding me of my lack of willpower and laziness.
I do think that too many people come up with excuses for not doing their workout in the morning (or in the middle if the day, or at night…), and that's another extreme. But for me, missing the workout or being forced to skip a run caused so much guilt. I really thought that I'd put on weight because of that, and that, back then, was literally the worst thing that I thought could happen.
I felt so guilty for skipping the workout that I kept thinking about it all day long and couldn't focus on anything else. Of course it affected the rest of my day too! It was hard to get anything else done; it was a waste of time.
Slave of Food
Being on a food rollercoaster is ruining your relationships with eating and can also do the same to your relationships with other people. Are you that girl / guy who always turns down invitations, because there's nothing healthy to eat there?
By trying to make only perfect food choices, we never give ourselves a break. We can't relax when we don't know how many calories or macros there are in foods, and we're never able to chill the heck out when eating this forbidden cake or piece of chocolate.
If we're so stuck with a specific meal plan or number if calories, that simply means that we don't trust ourselves and our bodies at all. Isn't it weird though that we let someone, whoever it was that came up with this meal plan for us, to tell what and how much to eat, instead of asking the same things from our bodies?
When we're stuck with perfectionism like that, we're happy when we're “on” the wagon, and our lives suck when we fall “off” of it. It's a rollercoaster, we're either up or down, but there's never stability.
Being dependent on your allowed and forbidden foods we let food determine whether we're good or bad, just like we let exercise to do the same.
Why Being on a Food and Fitness Rollercoaster Sucks
Being on a food and fitness rollercoaster feeds the negative feelings we have for ourselves, as soon as the train goes down. And that always happens – because that's how rollercoasters work. We can't be up all the time.
As soon as we go down, we confirm ourselves that we're failure and that we have no willpower. Our thoughts dictate our behaviors, and if we treat ourselves like crap in our mind, there's no way that we could be positive, happy and successful.
It's not only about mind, it's also about the body. If we're crazy perfectionist like that, we're likely going to make up for that workout we missed. Of course we're going to double our miles tomorrow, and eat half the calories!
That's what many people do and years ago, I was no different. Only then I felt that I was back on track. But doubling the workout and cutting the calories in half is the way to put your body through a lot of stress which many of us – me included – deal even with years later, even after we've fixed our relationship with food and fitness. Extreme weight loss, loss of period in women, and weak bones can be some results of this kind of restrictive behaviors.
Consistency is Still Key – But It Doesn't Have to Be Perfect
Consistency in eating mostly healthy foods and moving our body daily are super important. But at the same time, if we can't forgive ourselves even this one missed workout or unplanned rest day or a treat that we really wanted, these things are going to occupy our minds for even days. We're not able to reach our full potential and do the things that we really want to do, because there's this piece of cake standing on the way!
It took me many years to realize that life doesn't have to be like this. I don't have to be a slave of exercise or food. There's a better way than being either up on that rollercoaster (running 10+K every single day, eating veggies and pasta and no fat) or down (skipping a workout, bingeing like it's my last day).
Understanding that there also exists mostly flat road with some small, occasional rolling ups and downs (we eat more when there's celebrations and parties, and we'll always get cravings once in a while!), has really been life changing for me.
Stepping off that rollercoaster can be scary if we've been on it for years. But it's worth trying.
If we stop obsessing about small details in our food and exercise, we can use our time for more meaningful things. Maybe we should strengthen our relationships? Is there a way we could we help other people? Maybe we can face that fact that we don't like our job, and find something more enjoyable?
Instead of letting the food and exercise to take up too much space and mental capacity, we could use for doing things really matter to us and other people.
Do you ever feel like you're on the food and fitness rollercoaster?
You’re so right. When I started consistently working out 2 years ago, I was definitely like a horse with blinders on, only focusing on working out and eating super “healthy” as I tried to hit my target weight. Since I hit my goal about a year and a half ago and have successfully kept it off, it feels good to be more moderate. Life will happen, so it’s no big deal if I skip a workout I initially planned because I’m tired or just don’t feel like it, or if I have a cupcake (because sometimes that’s just the answer to a bad day). But I feel that as long as you’re being consistent the majority of the time, you’ll continue to see results. And I think that’s the healthiest mindset. Love your posts 🙂
Kersten Kimura says
Mallory, a huge YES to all you just said! So right, as long as you’re doing the right things the majority of the time, nothing horrifying will happen. That way we can actually give our minds a break that many of us really need! Thanks for reading 🙂 xoxo